Michelle Obama Dispels #RelationshipGoals Myth!
After 26 years of marriage, Michelle Obama has learned a lot about what it means to be someone’s partner, in every sense of the word, according to Zach Johnson of the well known entertainment online platform E!News. As the former First Lady reveals to Oprah Winfrey in ELLE magazine’s December issue, she and Barack Obama never meant to define #RelationshipGoals—at least, not in the way the hashtag has been attributed to their names.
Being married to Barack “taught me how to swerve,” she says. Because even before he was elected President of the United States, the demands of his political career were often at odds with the needs of his family. But he “had this wonderful optimism about time,” Michelle Obama says with a laugh, explaining that his calendar was often overbooked. “He thought there was way more of it than there really was. And he would fill it up constantly. He’s a plate spinner—plates on sticks, and it’s not exciting unless one’s about to fall. So, there was work we had to do as a couple.”
And so, the Obamas decided to see a marriage counselor. “You go because you think the counselor is going to help you make your case against the other person. ‘Would you tell him about himself?’ And lo and behold, counseling wasn’t that at all. It was about me exploring my sense of happiness. What clicked in me was that I need support and I need some from him,” Michelle Obama explains. “But I needed to figure out how to build my life in a way that works for me.”
In her memoir, Becoming, Michelle Obama confessed she “felt vulnerable” when Barack was on the road and away from their family. The revelation was profound, according to Oprah, who tells her, “I thought that was kind of amazing, to hear a modern woman—a First Lady—admit that.”